Vows and Toasts

How to write your own
Wedding Vows and Toasts:

A Workbook for Brides
and the Men Who Love Them


This workbook contains step-by-step directions for writing your own wedding vows. It also has chapters to help your guest write toasts and tributes, as well as helpful tips about planning you wedding and other events. There's even a chapter about rehearsing your vow or toast so that it is perfect on the day.

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Experts Love It!

This wonderful little book will help you plan vows and toasts that truly speak from your hearts. As you work with it, this book will also deepen you understanding of why you and your partner have chosen to take this path together.
Dr. William C. Compton, author, An Introduction to Positive Psychology

Who Needs This Book?

*Couples who want to express their love for each other openly,honestly, and beautifully in their wedding vows.
*The Best Man or Maid of Honor who doesn't often speak in public and isn't sure how to write and deliver a successful toast.

*The father or mother of the bride, close friends, relatives - anyone who will speak at the events surrounding your wedding.

What's in this book?

*A "kitchen-tested" process for writing vows, toasts, and wedding speeches.
*A step-by-step rehearsal process.
*Techniques for dealing with "stage fright" that will work for anyone.
*Many quotations from poetry and prose, old and new.

So this is a workbook?

*This book doesn't just tell you how to write your vows, it shows you how.
*The workbook format leads you through a step-by-step creative process that is easy to follow and helps you produce inspired results, whether you are writing wedding vows, toasts, or speeches.

*The vows section is suitable for traditional and non-traditional weddings in any religion or sect that allows personally written vows in the marriage ceremony. The sections on toasts, speeches, rehearsal, and all the rest will help anybody!


More expert opinions about Vows and Toasts

This book is designed for family and wedding party members. It contains essential wedding day information in easy-to-use guidelines, as well as many famous quotes to enhance any set of vows or celebratory toasts.
Elaine M. Parker, EdM, Author of Wedding Directing and Coordinating: How to be a Professional Wedding Director

Thanks to Robert and Carol for writing this amazing book! Haven't we all been to weddings where the Best Man or Father of the Bride stumbled over appropriate things to say? Vows and Toasts is a valuable tool that helps take the nervous jitters out of that awkward moment - giving our speechmaker instrumental advice on how and what to say! Thanks for making this happen and helping the bride with one less worry on her big day!
Angie Commons - Premier Bride

Here are some questions from the Bride's vows.

Let’s get started. Get out your notebook or journal or computer keyboard so you can answer these questions in writing. You’re just making notes for yourself – your answers don’t have to be long and you don’t have to make complete sentences. Just get your good ideas down, very informally.

PART ONE: Why do you want to marry him?

Question 1: When and where did you two meet?

For instance, was it unexpected? Were you introduced? Has the place you met become important to you as a couple? What else?

[Write down your answer.]

Question 2: What happened the first time you met?

Did you know he was “the one?” Did you dislike him at first? Did you fall in love at first sight, or were you unimpressed? Did he do something funny or endearing? What else? This might be an amusing or touching story – this might also end up as part of YOUR toast at the reception instead of in your vows.

[Write down your answer.]

Question 3: What first attracted you to him?

Was it his hair, or eyes, or mouth? Was it his kindness, playfulness, or laugh? Was it his spirituality or religious convictions? What else?

[Write down your answer.]

Question 4: What do you love the most about him now?

Is it his character, his humor, his interests, the way he makes you feel? Is there something you love about him that he may not know you love about him? What else?

[Write down your answer.]

Question 5: When and where did he first say, “I love you?”

Describe where you were, what it was like….

[Write down your answer.]

Question 6: When and where did you first say, “I love you?”

How did you feel when you first said it, and how did he react?

[Write down your answer.]

Question 7: Does he know how to do his own laundry, cook at least three good meals, and actually use all of his electronic devices? Explain!

[Write down your answer.]

These are some of the questions you'll answer. By the time you finish the questions, you'll have the basis for your vows (toasts work the same way). Then we lead you through a simple step-by-step process to choose just the right words and polish them into a little work of art. YOU ALREADY KNOW HOW TO DO THIS. We just help you engage your own creativity!

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